Dating older men bad
Her husband had already had five boys by his first wife, and wasn’t keen for more children. One Christmas, I received a Hussar’s uniform, complete with a sabre he wanted me to rattle.As for the wealth and baubles so associated with an older man, the consolation of money soon becomes a false one. On one birthday, I was presented with a tin canary that sang O Sole Mio when you wound it up.We called it the “Grown Men in 2010” challenge, and endeavored to meet as many men at least ten years older than us, but not old enough to be our fathers, as we could.After about a year of this nonsense, I learned that dating the grown and sexy is just not for me, for six good reasons: 1. I dated Steve, 41, and he was a fun guy, but half of what came out of his mouth seemed like it was from a outtake.By then, my male contemporaries had married and started families, as well as successful careers.To my chagrin, I now saw them and their wives in the swish and swanky restaurants and hotels I had thought my exclusive province. Last year, I realized that maybe I should start having stricter standards for who I’ll date.
I would dissolve in tears until I began to interpret his attacks as a form of control exercised by a man who was growing insecure.Prince Talleyrand, Napoleon’s foreign minister, who was catnip to women, fathered a child in his 60s.Churchill was 66 when he became PM in 1940, and Ronald Reagan was almost 70 when he entered the White House.I guess Catherine Zeta-Jones, Amanda Ferry and the other women stung by older men have experienced something similar.For, as men grow older, they grow angry and stubborn.