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And one of the best places to start is to talk about sex.
Specifically: male virginity and the shame in ages – talking about the shame and pain of being a male virgin.
What makes this especially twisted is the way we internalize the pressure to fuck, to be a virgin.
The story turns our sexual development into a performance, just as masculinity is often a performance.
The fear of being “outed” as a virgin becomes a self-perpetuating cycle.
They so fear rejection for being virgins that they can’t bring themselves to approach women.
They talk about feeling broken or unworthy, that they’ve missed some sort of open time frame where they could lose their virginity and now they’re (metaphorically) screwed.
It feels like to 50 – that they can’t bring themselves to talk about it.