What to expect when dating a jewish man
Me: ‘Why would you be not Jewish and on a Jewish dating app? Dating EVERYONE’ Him: ‘Well, recently I found out that my great grandfather was Jewish and so I’ve wanted to learn a bit more about my family’s heritage by dating Jewish women…’ Apparently, the result of assimilation between religions has resulted in curious multi-faith offspring who would rather gain first hand explanations of their personal ancestry than, say, going to a museum, or watching Schindler’s List. This post is a response to a Jewish Week article published back in March entitled Can We Talk? ): Are Jewish guys more susceptible to the ‘pen pal complex? So take a moment to read the article before reading my response.And here are some lessons I’ve learned: Lesson 1: It’s just as hard online as it is ‘IRL’ Plus your family will disown you Looking for a Jewish partner is like flat hunting.You don’t get everything you want, the market is saturated and you have to sell yourself short (most men I date are so vertically-challenged they make all 5’2” of me feel like the Burj Khalifa - at least when you’re vetting dates at real-life events you can see exactly where they enter on the height scale from the off).You see, if you want to truly understand what is really going on in the mind of the average (and above) single Jewish male, you need to turn to one of their own for the truth.That’s not to take anything away from the female experts who are amazing at helping their clients find love, but they’re still not single Jewish men (and never will be, I hope). But prior to my matrimonial leap I spent 15 years on the Upper West Side, living the life of an (above) average single Jewish man, so I think I might be able to give you a peek into that dark and mysterious place that is the single Jewish male mind.LOS ANGELES, CA - JANUARY 14: Actresses Natalie Portman (L) and Mila Kunis attend the Eleventh Annual AFI Awards reception at the Four Seasons Hotel on January 14, 2011 in Los Angeles, California.
Not Jews who happen to be on Guardian Soulmates, but on dedicated sites and apps tailored to Jews by Jews.
Every time I walk away, still single, realising that the real charity case here is actually me.
When The Internet Jewish dating game upped its ante, I was relieved that there was no longer the need to go to these thankless gatherings.
So as time ticks on and the best of the local, reasonably aged Jewish males have been married off, I’ve made more of a concerted effort to put myself out there.
I’ve been to the singleton Friday Night buffets, the Jewish Speed-Dating evenings in ‘hip’ bars like Gilgamesh and the charity parties.